I’m Denise Connors.

I arrived at ADHD coaching through lived experience, a lot of trial and error, and years of living feeling like something was off or out of reach. It was a winding road to get here.

I was doing what I wanted to do in life. Building a career, creating stability, having a family, and showing up for everyone around me. And I thought I needed to do it all flawlessly and effortlessly to do it right. Things did look good on the outside, but I felt like everyone else got a map and I was lost in an unlit parking lot at night, trying to find my car with no real sense of where I was supposed to be looking.

My mind was always on, racing with lists, things I should be doing, what to say or whether I missed something important. It was like I had 100 browser tabs open at once. I struggled with anxiety, perfectionism, time slipping away without me noticing, emotional intensity, and the sense that even the simplest things took more effort than they should. I knew the things I wanted to do, but getting started often felt strangely out of reach. I didn’t have language for it then. I just knew I was exhausted from trying to hold everything together.

Finding clarity through ADHD

In 2020, we started looking for answers for my son, who was struggling with anxiety and paying attention in school. When ADHD was described to us after his evaluation, it made sense for him. And everything I heard hit me like an echo. Like I was finally hearing something that had been there all along.

Naturally curious, I learned everything I could about it to support my son. And I began to see my own life through a different lens.

I pursued my own evaluation, and I was diagnosed as an adult. It connected a lot of dots.

I started unlearning a lot of old ideas I had about perfectionism, productivity, and what it meant to be "keeping up." At work, I practiced being okay with good enough. What I found was that my inner critic was the only one who thought it wasn't. I realized the perfectionism was never really about my standards. It was about what I thought others expected. Once I saw that, I could stop performing for an audience that wasn't even watching, and start building more self-trust, more realistic structure, and more compassion for my natural way of moving through life. That's when I started to understand ADHD in a broader way.

What I learned along the way

One of the biggest shifts was realizing that ADHD shapes how we move through every area of life. It isn't just about attention. Once you understand what's actually going on, things start to make more sense. You stop assuming every struggle is a personal flaw. For a lot of people, that shows up as starting things easily but struggling to finish them, feeling pulled in too many directions, or relying on urgency to get things done. Coaching helped me see that from there, you can start figuring out what actually supports you. That's where things begin to shift.

Why Lavender Path exists

I created Lavender Path ADHD Coaching for adults who were late diagnosed, or who are still making sense of what ADHD means for their lives.

A lot of people arrive having already tried to figure it out on their own for a long time. In sessions, clients tend to bring the real, messy stuff early and we work from there. Together we figure out where they want to go, find what's getting in the way, and build plans we can test and adjust in real life. Underneath that practical work, a clearer sense of who they want to be tends to emerge. That's what makes the plans actually stick.

If you've been wondering why certain things have always felt harder than they should, this is a good place to start figuring that out.